Last week some things came out in the news about this season of The Biggest Loser that caused me to take a good hard look at my life. I saw the same pattern in what was reported to happen that I see in many areas of my life; whether it be school, business, weight-loss, addictive behaviors, or finances. It seems I used to want to blame my success or failure on the circumstances in my lifes. What I have learned in my life is when I blame others for my current place in life, I give away all of the power I need to change my situation. I did it for 15 years in my office at 458 pounds!
Look at this post I left on a a page to some others who were griping and complaining about their experience in a situation that was happening:
“I take FULL responsibility for my experiences. If you hate something, it’s your fault. If you love something, it’s your fault. It’s not your job’s, your parent’s, your spouse’s, or anyone else’s fault…it’s YOUR fault. When you can take FULL responsibility for your life…PERIOD…you can then move on and be happy. I just get sick and tired of hearing “Because of this,, I did this!” and “they made me do that” or “because of them I #%+*^!” Th0e first step is accepting responsibility for your life and what you get out of it. If you aren’t successful, it’s YOUR fault. If your life sucks, it’s YOUR fault! AND if you are happy, it’s YOUR fault. If you had a blast in a situation, it’s YOUR fault. No one controls you or what you experience in anything in your life except YOU. No excuses. Blaming others and circumstances is lame. Blame yourself.” (February 24 at 5:03pm via mobile)
Now, with that being said, I fall into this trap time and time again. Before I was on the Biggest Loser, I made excuse after excuse as to why I couldn’t lose weight. I blamed my wife for buying chips and ice cream and having it in the house even after I asked her not to. I blamed my schedule because I was too busy and had too much to do. I even blamed my boss because I asked them to get a treadmill and put it in the garage so we could work out during lunch, and when I asked he laughed! But in the end, my weight issues weren’t being addressed because I chose not to address them. And as long as I blamed everyone else around me for my problem, I gave away the very power that could change it – the power to choose.
Look at the mountain you have in front of you. It might be unemployment, a failing marriage, alcoholism, or yes – obesity. If you will realize that the reason you are where you are is because of the decisions and choices you have made in response to your circumstances, then you will be able to begin making the decisions that can start your journey out of the desert and into the Promised Land! I know there are circumstances in your life that are in NO WAY in your control, but your response to that circumstance is. I’m not telling this to an abused child right now…my father was abused. In high school he was class president for 3 straight years and graduated, began his own business, and was an INCREDIBLE father. Others have not done the same…that perhaps have let their circumstances define their life. The choice is yours. But until you quit giving your power away to choose your destiny to everyone else, you are destined not to change it.
For more motivational messages from Danny Cahill from The Biggest Loser, go to www.loseyourquit.com or like him on facebook at www.facebook.com/thedannycahill.